Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Not a Friend to the Animals, Part 1

"Animals are such agreeable friends -- they ask no questions, they pass no criticisms."
George Eliot

"I don't hate animals and I would never hurt an animal; I just don't actively care about them.  When a coworker shows me cute pictures of her dog, I struggle to respond correctly, like an autistic person who has been taught to recognize human emotions from flash cards.  In short, I am the worst."
Tina Fey (from her book Bossypants)

A couple weeks ago, my friend Melody and I were discussing her and her husband’s slightly-evil cat, Shadow.  The cat had bitten Mel a couple times and she was concerned about any possible run-ins between her one-year-old daughter and the cat.  It also had a history of causing some trouble around the house.  Technically, it was Melody’s husband’s cat, so she couldn’t just up and get rid of it, much as she would have liked to.  We got into a conversation about animals, particularly the domestication of them, and it got me thinking about why people have pets in the first place.

I’ll be honest: I'm not a friend to the animals.  I fall into the Tina Fey camp of thinking (see above).  My family never had animals growing up.  On the rare occasion that I did ask for a dog or a cat, my mom would always tell me, “You have a brother.”  I think because we didn’t have pets growing up, I vacillate somewhere between “I’m slightly scared of animals because I don’t have any history of knowing how they will act” and “I'm just not a friend to the animals and don’t want to feel like I have to be.”  I know I’ve said once or twice that I “hate” animals…but I don’t.  Hatred is something active.  I am just generally indifferent to them.  There certainly are specific things I don’t like about animals, particularly dogs.  They are space-invaders (that doesn’t mean space-invaders like E.T…just that they like to be in people’s personal space), they get hair all over my clothes, and they never learn to clean up their poop independently.  When kids in my classes would find out that I lived alone, they used to ask me, “Isn’t it lonely when you get home at the end of the day?” and I always answered, “Nope, I have 160 little co-dependent beings that I have to help all day.  I don’t need another one when I get home.”  I think that sums up my general feelings about animals.

All that being said, I can (kind of) see why people love them so much.  I can appreciate the fact that animals provide companionship, that animals can be comforting, and that animals are considered a form of protection.  Sometimes I let them touch me.  My friend Melody’s dog, Jack, is pretty cute, and if I'm feeling generous, I'll let him sit on my lap.  Growing up, my aunt and uncle had a cat that I am fairly certain I nagged to death by trying to make it like me.  I have had flashes of animal interest, but I’ve never crossed over from “interest” to “I’d really like to have a pet.”  I’d say that since I was about twelve, I really haven’t cared two hoots about pets.  So, even though I get the reasoning behind having a pet, I just don’t really get why people are so passionate about them.  The concept of actually loving an animal is foreign to me.

So, this next little series of blog posts is going to be about pets.  My original conversation with Melody triggered my interest about the historical background of pets, but as I’ve continued to think about it leading up to actually doing some reading on the topic, I guess there’s a part of me that is curious what our love of pets has to say about us as people.  Is there some greater significance to the place that animals have in our society?  What kinds of changes have occurred in how pets are viewed throughout history?  How does all of this play into the very tricky area of animal rights?

So many questions.  Here are the books that are hopefully going to help me answer some of them…and also help me think of new ones.

Katharine Macdonogh, Reigning Cats and Dogs
Temple Grandin & Catherine Johnson, Animals Make Us Human
Katherine C. Grier, Pets in America: A History

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Being Set Up for Failure

"You say it best when you say nothing at all."
"When You Say Nothing at All" - song by Alison Krauss

Sometime in the last year, I was out searching for a gift for my now-six-year-old niece.  (I’ll call her L.)  She had informed my sister-in-law that she wanted a Barbie, and I, being the dutiful aunt, trotted off to Target in an attempt to find the doll L. was dreaming of.  Having no children of my own (and L. being my oldest niece) I haven’t spent a lot of time in the Barbie aisle in the last twenty years.  The last time I even came close to Barbie World was in the 90s when Aqua sang about it.  To be honest, I’m not a huge Barbie fan, and two very strong parts of myself were at war the closer I got to that glittering pink and purple aisle in Target.  Strong part one was the healthy feminist side of myself that rejects the concept of a doll whose body is so completely out of proportion that she’d literally be unable to stand up straight if she were a real person.  Equally-strong part two was the side that really wanted to fulfill my niece’s birthday wish.  I mean, who wants to be the auntie who buys sucky, “I-didn’t-ask-for-this-but-thanks-anyways” presents?  No one.

So there I stood in the Barbie aisle, scanning the shelves.  I don’t remember which doll L. wanted, but it took a little bit of looking before I could find it.  During that searching process was when I saw it…the reason why young women fail in relationships before they even start.  Picture this: a sandy blonde with a tight t-shirt and blue jeans, slight smile on the little plastic face, and the promise of “You make me talk!”.  Except it wasn’t a Barbie.  It was a Ken doll.  Not just any Ken doll, either.  As if “You make me talk!” wasn’t seductive enough, this was “Sweet Talkin’ Ken” and the back of his box informed me of what else he had to promise:  “Record your voice.  I say it back in mine” and “Press my heart to record your message.”  Then it finished with this load of crap blatant lie epigram: “The ultimate boyfriend always knows the right thing to say!”  I think I must have read and re-read this particular toy box three or four times before I actually processed what I was seeing.  It was sort of one of those moments when you’re saying to yourself, “There’s no way I read that right…Maybe it means something different than what it says?...Nope…I think it’s serious.”  Once I determined that Mattel actually wanted little girls to believe this statement, I took a picture with my digital camera to permanently record the travesty, and began mentally cataloguing the ramifications of the existence of a doll such as this one.  (Oh, and I still bought L. the doll she wanted.  I felt better about good ol’ misogynistic, impossible-body-standard Barbie after seeing “Sweet Talkin’ Ken.”)

Perhaps you’re wondering why I was so appalled that day in Target.  If you are, you might want to stop reading this blog post now, because it’s most likely not going to get any clearer to you by doing so.  I’m assuming you’re also someone who felt sorry for Kim Kardashian when she got divorced for the second time.  Those of you who are reading this with your mouth hanging slightly open, read on.

Any twenty or thirty-something woman can attest to the fact that the man-woman game has changed drastically in our lifetime.  From my own observations, I believe there are many reasons for this, including (but not limited to) the rise of technology, the feminist movement, pop culture (along with the media’s portrayal of men and women), and the sexual revolution.  In her book Manning Up: How the Rise of Women Has Turned Men into Boys, Kay Hymowitz discusses many of these factors, as well.  However, she focuses most specifically on America’s growth as a knowledge economy and the fact that women are more naturally suited for this type of economic model.  Because our country encourages young people to be as educated as possible (dare I say, overeducated?), Hymowitz asserts that human beings are no longer going from adolescence to adulthood, but are instead spending some time in what she likes to call “pre-adulthood.”  She writes, “Not so long ago, average mid-twentysomethings, both male and female, had achieved most of the milestones of adulthood: high school diploma, financial independence, marriage, and children.  These days, they hang out in a novel sort of limbo, a hybrid state of semi-hormonal adolescence and responsible self-reliance.”  Hymowitz also posits that “[a]mong preadults, women are the first sex.  Women graduate from college in greater numbers than men, with higher grade point averages; more extracurricular experiences, including study abroad; and as most professors tell it, more confidence, drive, and plans for the future.  They are aggressively independent; they don’t need to rely on any man, that’s for sure.”

I could argue that this is a change from how society is typically portrayed – as a male-dominated place working as hard as possible to squelch female excellence.  Because the message from society is that women are still oppressed, I feel sometimes that I have a responsibility to my fellow suffering sisters to stand up for womanhood and be as assertive and independent as possible.  If you asked women whether or not they have achieved equality with men, I think most would say no.  While I would never suggest that the glass ceiling has been shattered or that young women are presented with positive female role models in society (the same way that young men are), I can say confidently that I have grown up in a time when there are more opportunities for women than any other time in history.  Women can, with some exceptions, set any goal they desire and achieve it.  Contrast this with the fact that most of my girlfriends who are single are always on the lookout – secretly or not-so-secretly – for Mr. Right.  I know very few single adult women who don’t want to become wives and mothers sometime in the next three to five years.  This seems like a contradiction.  I believe this contradiction can be attributed to the fact that the part women play in society is still nebulous.  From an early age, we are expected to change and adapt to whatever we’re given in life.

Men also have a bit of confusion when it comes to where they stand in today’s society.  Hymowitz discusses this as well.  She writes, “Young men are not showing the same focus or resilience that supervisors and professors notice among women.  This is not the case for all men by any means.  Plenty of guys graduate college with a resume to rival or surpass the most enterprising…girls.  But there is a large and prominent group of men who hit their twenties and seem unsure what’s expected of them…Men have been struggling with finding an acceptable adult male identity since at least the mid-nineteenth century.”  This lack of direction, according to Hymowitz, leads to the “child-man” and “widespread cultural uncertainty about men”, a phenomenon only “aggravated by preadulthood.”  Because the young women of today grow up in a society where they outrun men and don’t really need them to run in the first place, “provider husbands and fathers are now optional, and the character qualities men had needed to play their role [of provider husbands and fathers]—fortitude, stoicism, courage, fidelity—are obsolete and even a little embarrassing.”  Men are told that they are useless so they become useless.  This isn’t rocket science.  I am sure there are some women reading this who would still argue that men have it made, and therefore they don’t have to do as much to have the same opportunities that we ladies work very hard for.  On some level I would agree.  However, I also think most women (and men!) would agree that “behind every great man is a great woman.”  I don’t believe it’s a stretch to say that we make men better people, but while we’re told that we don’t need men, what if they need us?

What’s the result of all this? – “[a] not-very-promising background for preadult men and women as they look for sex and love...Women say guys are immature, uncivil, and utterly unfathomable…Men grouse about women who can’t decide if they want equality or chivalry…Once men and women are equals, many of the old rules of dating don’t make sense anymore.”  And we come full circle, back to “Sweet Talkin’ Ken.”  Here are my issues with him.

First of all, the fact that girls can record what they want to hear and then Ken says it back in his voice just reinforces an insidious message I hear in our country right now that men are weak and cannot act for themselves.  Maybe I’m overreacting, but this particular Ken's first message to little girls across America is that they can (and should) get men to say what they want.  It’s sort of like when I was in 6th grade and I had my first boyfriend, Sean.  My best friend and I were out at the mall and saw a really cute necklace that said “I <3 U” on it.  What did we do?  We bought it.  Why?  So that Lauren could give it to Sean and he could give it to me.  What was this?  The beginning of a string of unhealthy relationships where I tried to manipulate men into saying what I wanted to hear and doing what I wanted them to do instead of just letting them be themselves.  Do they say stupid things when they talk?  Of course.  But do they say an equal number of sweet, smart, funny things?  If we give them the chance to, yes.  (Don’t even get me started on the fact that in order to manipulate Ken into telling you how great you are, you have to press his heart.  To me, that’s one of the worst parts.)

The second offense I find with Mr. Ken is that he is called “Sweet Talkin’ Ken.”  What father says to his daughter, “Honey, find yourself the sweet talkin’ kind of man.  He’s the one who’s going to make your dreams come true”?  In reality, the “sweet talkin’” guys are often the ones who bring us the most heartache.  A therapist told me once that many men who can say the right thing at the right time are also very shallow and all about appearances.  They find it important to say the right thing rather than being honest or genuine.  I believe there’s an old saying that goes, “Shallow brooks babble the loudest.”  Let’s apply that in this situation, shall we?  (And really, let’s apply it to people everywhere…no man bashing going on here.  I love men.  J)  If they can sweet talk you, it’s probably because they have lots of practice.  If they have lots of practice, it probably means that they’ve played some women in their time.  If they’ve played some women in their time, they will most likely play you, too.  So, when it’s all said and done, I’m not sure I want 8-year-old girls across America seeing “Sweet Talkin’ Ken” as a paragon of male behavior.  Once again, do the non-sweet-talkin’ guys sometimes say stupid things?  Yes, but at least they are usually being genuine.  Now, I recognize that there’s probably no market for “Debt Free Ken” or “Treats His Mother Right Ken” or "Takes Out the Garbage Ken", but for the love of Pete…can’t we encourage girls to find a man who does more than says the right thing?

Finally, probably my biggest problem with this Ken doll is the statement “The ultimate boyfriend always knows the right thing to say!”.  While I am a woman who is looking for a man who can say the right thing (mostly because I have so much to say…ha!), I have also come to realize that sometimes they don’t say the right thing.  I used to teach high school, and the kids always knew they could get me off on a tangent about chick movies and how damaging they are to both women AND men.  I think the reasons why romantic movies (or books) can be hurtful to women are pretty obvious – the belief in the guaranteed happy ending, the idea that relationships can (and should) be fixed quickly and easily, the only happy ending is a wedding or an epic kiss, etc., etc., etc.  However, the ways that these movies and books are hurtful to men are often overlooked but just as damaging.  After a steady dose of these movies, women come to expect some things from men that they may not be able to deliver.  Not because they are worthless or bad guys but because no one could deliver what these movies promise.  Sometimes, he won’t call back or show up or say what you want to hear.  In fact, he may have something to say, but it may be the completely wrong thing to say.  He most likely won’t knock on your door wearing a wife-beater, rain sliding down his bulging bicep muscles, flowers in hand and apology not far behind.  He might let you go.  And that has to be okay.  We’ve created a society where men cannot choose to walk away from relationships (in a healthy way) without being labeled quitters or deadbeats.  Sometimes, they do make an honest effort to make a relationship work, but it’s not good enough because it’s not how Ryan Gosling would have done it.

Now, does this excuse bad behavior?  Of course not.  Not in any way, shape, or form do I sanction abusive, unkind, or damaging behavior.  Furthermore, it takes the mutual work of both a man and a woman to make a relationship work properly.  Men, like women, should make a concerted effort.  And – call me old-fashioned – but I believe men should be the ones initiating any kind of relationship.  Men are the rocks of relationships if you let them be that.  Sadly, though, as long as we have a generation of little girls growing up believing that Ken will say just what they want to hear; that those words are more important than a good character or a promising future; and that the most important thing to look for in a boyfriend is that he always knows the right thing to say, women will struggle to find healthy relationships.

Maybe what struck me the most about "Sweet Talkin' Ken" is that when it's all said and done, simply saying the right thing isn't the key to a long, healthy relationship.  One of the things I've learned from watching the many functional relationships in my family and friends is that it really isn’t what’s said that makes a relationship last.  So often, it’s what isn’t said.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Cowboys and Truckers, Part 4

“You would be hungry, naked, and homeless without truckers.”
—Slogan painted on the back of a truck I passed recently—

Job (n): a piece of work done for pay

Work (n): effort exerted to do or make something

Americans are obsessed with identity.  Just wander through a self-help section at a Barnes and Noble or library and it’s pretty obvious what I mean.  Psychologists across the country make bank every year by encouraging people to embrace their “true selves.”  Even without tapping one of these resources, chances are good that the average person has wondered, “Who am I?  Who do I want to be?” at one or two times in life.  Perhaps one of the largest influences on identity is the work that we choose to do.  Even when we’re little, adults constantly inquire, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”  Have you ever noticed, though, how the question changes throughout time?  As children, we are asked what we want to be.  As teens and young adults, we are asked,  “What is it you want to do with your life?”  At some point, it stops being about who we are and starts being about what we can do.  Despite the fact that changing that one word really does change the context, society seems to take no notice because there is a strong association between what we do for a living and who we are as individual people.  In the eyes of most of society the two questions are identical.

(Note: Throughout the following discussion, I will use the words “job” and “work” in very specific contexts.  Make sure you’ve read the definitions above before moving on.)

One of the central questions that has been buzzing around in my mind during these last few weeks is “When did jobs start carrying stigmas?”  Throughout history, there have always been ignoble jobs.  These include jobs that are morally wrong with a person being paid for an immoral act or through immoral means (like prostitution or thievery).  Ignoble jobs also included those where a person was working to repay a debt or that specifically defined a person as property (like indentured servitude or slavery).  There are clear reasons why an average worker would have felt “too good” for those jobs or why they would never have done them at all.

Outside of those types of “employment” (the term is used loosely), though, jobs were jobs.  If a particular job put food on the table and it wasn’t illegal or immoral, working people were all too willing to do the labor for pay.  It was a matter of survival, not identity.  An example of this comes from stories I’ve heard of my grandpa.  When he came over from Ireland, he said that a man could approach the foreman of a ditch digging detail, let’s say, and ask if he could work for the day.  If the foreman agreed, the man could grab a shovel and work for the day, receiving payment when the day’s work was done.  A job was a job, and by doing it, a person was able to make the necessary income to survive.  Furthermore, survival was a community idea.  Each working person was able to provide a service to another working person and a community of working people was a building block of society.  Blacksmiths helped shoe horses for farmers who grew produce for shopkeepers who sold necessary goods to the general public in towns across America.  No one in the working class would have “looked down” on other workers because they all needed each other to function in society.

Then, at some point in our history (I would venture a guess that it was after the Depression and the end of World War II), work took on a different value in America.  No longer were people judged based on how they did their jobs.  Before this change, a person who was a hard worker was someone of value; people judged other workers based on their quality of work.  After this change, a person of value was someone who had a prestigious job or a high salary.  Obviously, being a hard worker is how many people gain prestigious jobs, so it’s not as though the actual usefulness of hard work changed.  Something else changed.  Instead of work being a part of our lives – what we do to survive individually and as a part of a community – the jobs we hold are our whole lives – what define us as individuals and set us apart from our community.  The collective identity was traded for the individual identity.

Essentially, Americans decided to give jobs the power to say something about who we are as individuals.  Review the definitions up top again.  A “job” is an isolated concept, one piece of work.  We focus on jobs these days – the piece of work a person does every day to make a living.  Now re-read the definition of “work.”  It’s the effort a person puts into a job.  In America’s past, I believe that the value of hard work was a part of our collective national identity.  It didn’t matter as much what job a worker was doing (as long as it was legal and moral), but how he did the work told the community something about who he was.  Now, it’s not as much how we do the work that matters, it’s the title behind the work that gives validation.

Now, to cowboys and truckers…

I believe the job vs. work idea combined with America’s national identity make up one of the major reasons why the cowboy has been mythologized the way he has.  At the time cowboys were working, they were helping to build and expand America.  Society viewed the cowboy’s job as critical to the growth of our nation.  Because the work of the cowboy was noble, the cowboy was noble.  It didn’t matter that he was doing a “blue collar” job or that he was a common laborer.  His work contributed to the greater American community, and therefore it was important.  Had the cowboy come along at a different part in our history, perhaps he wouldn’t have been such a big deal, but because the heyday of the cowboy was, in many ways, also a heyday of America, the two end up hand in hand.  We have created and sustained cowboy mythology because it is also the mythology of America.

The job vs. work idea also contributes to the lack of mythology surrounding the trucker.  The actual job of the cowboy and trucker are pretty similar – take a product from Point A to Point B so it can be sold and a profit can be collected.  As I read about trucking, I was amazed at how hard the work can be.  I always figured that driving was pretty easy work, so truckers had it pretty easy.  However, there is a physical labor facet of trucking since trucks don’t unload themselves.  Overall, the job of a trucker is exhausting.  So, the “hard work” aspect of being a trucker isn’t much different than that of the cowboy.  Also, truckers are crucial to American commerce.  The statement I read on the back of that truck about all of us being hungry, naked, and homeless without truckers is pretty true.  Truckers take necessary goods from where they are produced to where they are sold.  Many of the foods and products we enjoy are available only because a trucker was willing to drive across the country.  So, they can be viewed as essential to the American people.  Finally, even the “open road” on which truckers drive connects them with the image of cowboys.  In literature, the “open road” is usually a symbol of possibility, freedom from social bonds, escape, and individualism.  Like being on “the range”, being on the “open road” suggests that the trucker is a man who is embraces adventure, freedom, and a spirit of independence.  So, with all of these similarities, why aren’t truckers the new mascot of the American identity?

It’s because the actual job of being a trucker isn’t viewed as a desirable form of employment.  Our priorities in terms of work have changed drastically.  Jobs that don’t provide the rewards of money, prestige, or a certain lifestyle are considered “not as good as others.”  Society feeds right into this idea.  I just had a conversation with a friend the other day where he was pretty adamant that Starbucks baristas needed to go find “a real job.”  I’ve said the same phrase myself about a variety of jobs.  We equate a person’s job with who they are, so if the job isn’t what’s considered a “great” job, then the person doing the job must not be much to talk about either.  Maybe that sounds harsh.  I know there have been times in my 20s when I’ve been ashamed to tell people what job I was doing because I felt the job title reflected poorly on me.  I’ve never held a job that was truly shameful, but because I wasn’t doing a job with an interesting or important job title, I felt that I needed to hide what I was doing.  At the time, I wasn’t even sure what type of work I wanted to pursue, and I didn’t see that what mattered was that I was working.  It mattered to me that people around me thought I was important because of my impressive job title.

Just as a person’s image to those around them plays a part in how they view their work, a worker’s self-image ties into the whole issue, as well.  We desire to hold jobs that help support the view we have of ourselves.  In Lawrence Ouellet’s book about truckers, Pedal to the Metal, I was really fascinated by his discussion of how truckers view themselves.  This specific self-image brings me to my final point on this whole big topic I’ve been exploring for almost a month.  One of Ouellet’s major questions about truckers was why do they seem to put forth such high effort when the extrinsic motivators that usually push workers forward aren’t present in trucking.  Most truckers aren’t entrepreneurs, so they don’t have the positive pressure that comes from working for themselves.  Ouellet also found it wasn’t because of the money, nature of the work, or access to high-end equipment that comes along with trucking.  When Ouellet studied truckers at two different trucking companies, he noticed two distinct factors.

First, there seemed to be a specific class consciousness about the work.  These men wanted to do enough to be competent and achieve their work goals without completely being under the thumb of their employer.  For these truckers, they didn’t want to be completely sold out to their companies because it meant they were just pawns to the companies that employed them and they were no longer the independent men they wanted to be.  Secondly—and this brings in a point I just discussed two paragraphs ago—they also had a high sense of honor about the work because they realized that their jobs held a great amount of sway over how they were viewed by others.  When these truckers did their jobs excellently, it boosted their self-esteem.  I think this is true for everyone.  When a person knows they’ve done a quality job, it brings with it a “pat yourself on the back” sort of feeling.  A job well done brings with it quantifiable results that provide a tangible identity.  This same effort also qualifies the worth of the labor and makes sense of the work.  Perhaps work that requires high effort is worthwhile.  Basically, these truckers were willing to work hard to prove to themselves (and others) that they had a meaningful job, even if the job title wasn’t one that was often coveted.  Like cowboys, these truckers were hoping that by ennobling the work they were doing, it would ennoble them, as well.

And they were also completely willing to tout their own importance – even without an endorsement from society.  Ouelett indicated over and over that truckers see themselves as the best of the best when it comes to driving ability.  They believe they fit the picture of “traditional men” in this country: strong and confident, hardworking and tough.  Truckers embrace the symbolism of the open road and many view themselves as “cowboys.”  Because they do their work on the stage of the highway, truckers see the attention from other drivers as proof of their importance.  Even though I’d argue that no job in our country sums up our national character and the work of a trucker doesn’t hold the same national significance as the work of a cowboy did, truckers clearly see themselves as holding a job that symbolizes something greater.  Truckers choose to assign meaning to their work, even if no one else is going to do it.  It’s this factor that makes me respect truckers more than I used to.  Obviously, this book was one man’s experience with truckers and there’s no guarantee that all truckers can be tarred with the same brush.  But I like to think that there are people in our country who still care more about their work than their job, and based on what I read, truckers seem to fit that category.

The American identity has changed drastically since the 1800s, when the cowboy rode over the open plain.  The cowboy was viewed as an icon of who we were as Americans – independent, brave, hard-working, and adventurous.  His work meant something because his work helped grow the United States.  Nowadays, someone who is a hard worker, like a trucker, no longer seems to have much of a chance of being the icon of our national spirit because we emphasize what our job title is over what our work means.  We want our jobs to provide us with an income that helps us live up to a certain level.  Or, our job description must fit with what we believe we deserve and—if we MUST work—what we’re willing to do.  Or, our jobs have the duty to create an entire identity so we can chirp our fascinating job title right after we introduce ourselves and thus feel like we’re someone worthwhile.  It goes back to the original idea that we are obsessed with our identities in this country.  Our non-work selves can be so cloudy sometimes, and jobs often bring with them a particular subculture or specific activities.  It is concrete and seems real to us because of its concreteness.  It’s easier to create a defined work self, and therefore we look to our jobs to tell us who we are.

The challenge I’d like to extend is that we each consider the meaning behind the work we are doing rather than just the job title.  Maybe you don’t feel like the work you do is worthwhile.  But, if your work provides you with a home and food, it means something.  If your work helps to support a family, it means something.  And if your work, no matter how menial it is, gives you a chance to set and achieve goals, it means something.  You may be smarter than your job, but that doesn’t mean the work you do isn’t important.  Just doing the work well elevates the role you play.  Maybe it’s a stretch, but I was thinking the other day about MLK, Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech and how he pled with the American people to judge people not based on the color of their skin but by the “content of their character.”  Ultimately, if we are quick judge ourselves and others based just on job titles, we are completely forgetting that it’s the way the work gets done that truly paints a picture of who is behind the work.

New topic next week!  J

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Cowboys and Truckers, Part 3

“Myths are public dreams…”
Joseph Campbell

“Myth is an attempt to narrate a whole human experience, of which the purpose is too deep in the blood and soul, for mental explanation or description.”
D.H. Lawrence

When I was a sophomore at Valparaiso University, my roommate and I got into a loud argument one afternoon about a chapter in the book The Things They Carried. It’s a book by Tim O’Brien, based on his experiences as a soldier in the Vietnam War. As the book begins, it’s easy to assume that the narrator is the author: they share the same name, the narrator speaks in first person, and he writes about Vietnam with a certain knowledge and understanding that could only come from a person who lived it. I can remember being enthralled with the stories the narrator was sharing and being amazed at O’Brien’s ability to remember all the details. My father is a Vietnam vet, so I’ve always been fascinated with the war, why it happened, and how it affected people. I was really into The Things They Carried until a chapter halfway through the book entitled “How to Tell a True War Story.” In this chapter, the narrator says, “For the common soldier, at least, war has the feel—the spiritual texture—of a great ghostly fog, thick and permanent. There is no clarity. Everything swirls. The old rules are no longer binding, the old truths no longer true. Right spills over into wrong. Order blends into chaos, love into hate, ugliness into beauty, law into anarchy, civility into savagery. The vapors suck you in. You can’t tell where you are, or why you’re there, and the only certainty is overwhelming ambiguity. In war you lose your sense of the definite, hence your sense of truth itself, and therefore it’s safe to say that in a true war story nothing is ever absolutely true.” I read this chapter and came to the horrific conclusion that I had been duped by the author. As this realization swept over me, I know that I must have been thinking in exclamations: His stories aren’t true! This whole time I thought he was telling the truth! What a jerk! I can’t believe I thought Tim in the book was Tim the author! Then, I got angry at Tim O’Brien and began thinking in questions: How can he sleep at night knowing that he’s sucking readers into his web of lies? How am I supposed to figure out what’s true and what isn’t? Why would he want to make his readers believe something that wasn’t true? I really felt indignant over how I had been treated as a reader, and I even think I went so far as to say that I thought it was wrong of the author to make it seem like his stories were true and then, in the end, be lying to his readers. (This is where the loud argument happened with Elly. She didn’t agree with me.) (She also may have had the wherewithal to look at the title page of the book where it said: “The Things They Carried, a work of fiction by Tim O’Brien.”)

I stayed pretty mad at Tim O’Brien until I started to understand why he had to weave truth and lies together to tell his stories. The Greeks and Romans did it. The American Indians did it. We do it, too. It’s called “myth.” The definition of “myth” is as follows: “a traditional story serving to explain some phenomenon, custom, etc.” So by definition, the made-up story helps to explain the true occurrence that people feel they cannot explain. O’Brien was creating mythology about being a soldier, and he knew that good mythology always carries a bit of truth in it. Myths help people work through their own stories (as in the case of Tim O’Brien), but they are also crucial to society as they help create culture, preserve history, and clarify what it means to be an individual within that society. I’ve come to the conclusion that this is what we’ve done with the American cowboy, as well.

According to one book I read, cowboys were more than happy to create mythology about themselves. Many of them were expert story-tellers and since most story-listeners never actually saw what happened on the range or on the long drive, cowboys could paint a picture of themselves that couldn’t easily be refuted. Buffalo Bill Cody, a man who never even worked as a cowboy, also help to disseminate the myth of the American cowboy with his “Buffalo Bill’s Wild West Show” that toured the country. Think of how cowboys are pictured in movies, and this is the image that Buffalo Bill created. Even the cowboy-Indian hatred myth came from Cody’s show. Buffalo Bill sought to create the typical good vs. evil dichotomy during the dramatic parts of his show and Native American caricatures were easy to create. He needed a “villain” and apparently he felt that Indians were the natural enemy of the cowboy. (Note: Many cowboys, in fact, were grateful to the Indians along the way who helped them navigate other Indians’ territory and would not have wanted to make trouble since the Native Americans outnumbered them. Indians were helpful – they knew the land, practiced useful medicine, supplied local information, and traded for food. Often, Native Americans were cowboys themselves.) Eventually, the movies put Buffalo Bill out of a job and both movies and books took up the cowboy myth torch. However, movies did their own type of damage to the reality of being a cowboy. Many of these movies mixed together the wildness of the Old West with the cowboy lifestyle. As I’ve already mentioned, most cowboys weren’t the dashing, debonair sharpshooters that the movies often portray. Cowboys were cow-herders. It’s the outlaws that have been romanticized to be larger than life. Men like Jesse James and Billy the Kid have gained a popularity in our culture, and we often lump outlaws and regular cowboys together.

Creating myths about themselves helped cowboys make it through the hardships that came along with their day-to-day existence. Perpetuating those myths throughout society created picture of what it meant to be an American. Multiple sources I read talked about how very few people actually wanted to be a cowboy. The work is dangerous, dirty, and difficult. But people are drawn to what being a cowboy means: individualism, honor, toughness, freedom, joy in hard work, courage, love of adventure, restlessness, skill, a spirit of independence. Even the outlaws have a niche in our mythology because there’s always the chance that the outlaw will do the right thing and then it feeds into our belief that every person has something redeeming to offer, every person has a chance to do the right thing. The historic figure of the cowboy (not the outlaw) helps us see the best that America has to offer (even if many of those cowboys were not particularly brilliant or influential men). It’s the job itself that elevates the men who did it. So, really, the mythology is about the job, not about the person. The individuals who were cowboys are just naturally swept into whatever great stories get told about what it meant to be a cowboy. On the flip side, while the job of being a cowboy is mythologized (is that even a word?) in our society, the true nature of the work of the cowboy is never really discussed, just the meaning behind the work. Job vs. work. Does this seem circular to anyone else? It’s in the midst of this circle that we find the trucker.

I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not to do an entire post about the job of being a trucker. In the end, I decided not to, not because I don’t want my readers to have all the facts, but because being a trucker is pretty much what you probably already think. Truckers usually work for a company that hauls a particular type of product. They are assigned jobs to take their product from one place to another; sometimes those are short distances and sometimes they are long distances, depending on the company and on the desires of the particular trucker. Once their truck-full of product is unloaded at the proper location, truckers rinse and repeat. The actual work of being a trucker isn’t terribly interesting. Sorry, truckers. It’s the mentality behind being a trucker that I find fascinating and it’s in this mentality that the connection with cowboys can be found.

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A short note from me:

I realize that this topic is being drawn out for a long time. My original plan was to do somewhere in the ballpark of two posts about it. But as I’ve thought about and wrestled with this particular set of information, I’ve realized that it’s bigger than I ever anticipated and I need to make sure all the details are on the table before I can sew it up, nice and compact. I hope you haven’t lost interest!

My other goal is to never make a post so long that a person can’t read it during a mental break during the work day or in the moments while they’re waiting for the train to show up. So, part of my goal here is to keep this to a manageable reading level. As I said before, I don’t sit around believing that my thoughts and ramblings are the most important thing you ponder all day. However, I do promise that I will wrap this all up in one more post. And the topic I have planned next is a one-parter. Your patience and interest are golden to me!  :)

Friday, February 3, 2012

Excuses, Excuses

To my many and various faithful followers:

I apologize for being on a post hiatus this week.  My explanation is brief...and still full of book suggestions (so I didn't totally abandon your learning process!).

Factor #1 -- I have been fighting tooth and nail not to get sick since Sunday night.

Factor #2 -- It's The Hunger Games's fault!  I started the first one on Tuesday and finished it in a day.  For the second book, I pulled a Harry Potter performance and stayed up until 2:30am reading it last night when I had to be up at 5:45am.

So, receive this humble apology for my wanton neglect.  I haven't already lost interest in blogging.  :)  In fact, I have still be thinking and mulling over my next post during this week.  Be prepared for a good one next week.

Your patience is very much appreciated.  (I sound like a stewardess.  Yes, your chair CAN turn into a floatation device.)